How to become yourself.
We spend our childhood being little helpless vessels for our
parents to fill with whatever they feel like it really. They don’t have a clue
as to what they’re doing, they have their own struggles and not knowing who
they are or which way they’re headed to deal with but biologically they created
a life and so now they have a dependent vessel to carry around. Sometimes the
birth of that vessel triggers a spark of care and love that can assist this
parent with its duty. Only sometimes.
After we’ve had our legally obligated fill of parental teaching
fluid we are adults! Yeah! We are now supposed to know who we are, where we’re
headed, and how to do whatever it is we want to do. We have some built in legal
struggles, of course: how to eat, stay dry and warm, get around, etc. But that
just levels the playing field.
Maybe you realize that actually, this is when our own life
begins?
Before now, we weren’t in charge of our own lives. We were
put somewhere not of our choosing, with people not of our choosing to live a
way that was not our choice. But once we are adults all the choices are ours!
How one eats, stays dry and warm, and gets around differs,
sure. But doing those things doesn’t make a self.
So how do we become ourselves? What defines our self? Does
our childhood define it? I think it gives us clues about our inherent abilities
and temperament but what you do with those things begins to define yourself.
So what do YOU do with your abilities and temperament?
